ADHD and Self-Denial: Finding Balance in Lent and Beyond
As regular readers of my blog are aware, my Catholic faith is important to me, and the Catholic Church has entered the liturgical season of Lent (and many protestant denominations have as well). The season of Lent is about preparing oneself for Easter. This involves a lot of self-denial, something that is challenging for those of us with ADHD. For example, at the end of the day, it is tempting for me to lay on the couch and watch tv. However, I want to read more. Yet, reading seems like so much work, and watching tv is so easy. So, I quite often watch tv instead of reading. My natural inclination is to watch tv and take it easy. But, this Lent, I am giving up tv shows and movies. This is going to take a lot of self-denial, which will be good for me and my ADHD management.
Even if you do not recognize the season of Lent, I think some self-denial is a good practice for anyone, but especially for those of us with ADHD. Here are some reasons why you might consider introducing some self-denial in your life:
Moderation
Too much of a good thing is actually a bad thing. Excess leads to all sorts of problems. You end up neglecting things that are more important. There is nothing wrong with watching tv, but doing so all day leads to other responsibilities falling by the wayside. If I am on the couch watching tv and movies all day, my dog will not get outside enough, and that could lead to disaster. At the very least, he will be displeased with me. Similarly, there is nothing wrong with a bowl of ice cream here and there, but eating it too often can lead to health problems. The same goes for video games, social media, potato chips, and a whole host of activities and food.
Right Relationship
When we practice self-denial, we can get into right relationship. For me, one of my goals for this Lenten season is to reconnect with God in a more profound way. But even if you do not believe in a higher power, practicing self-denial can get you in right relationship with friends, significant others, or family members. By placing too much of your time with one activity, food, or whatever the case may be, you lose touch with your loved ones. In short, you idolize something. It becomes your sole focus in life. This leaves those closest to you feeling neglected. For example, if you look too much at your phone around family members, what does that tell them about your feelings towards them? It is important to express your priorities in your choices. Self-denial is a great way to get in right relationship with, not only those import to you, but with yourself.
Happier and Healthier
By feeding into an addiction, you only make it worse. I am not comparing alcoholism to playing video games all day. What I am saying is when you spend all of your time and focus on one thing, you burn yourself out. It does not give you life. Self-denial can be a form of self-care. By denying yourself a pleasure, you give yourself the freedom to choose your happiness and health. In short, you have the freedom to do what is best for you.
My hope for my Lenten practice of self-denial is to grow in the virtue of moderation, get in right relationship with God and my loved ones, and become happier and healthier. I also hope you are inspired to practice self-denial in your life, so that you can have the same things.